“Change needed to happen for kids yesterday. There’s no time for this.” I’ve heard many iterations of this argument when talking to educators about the need to build relationships at the outset of a coaching relationship. In all of these instances, my response is the same: I hear your anger and sadness, and yes, kids […]
When we do equity work, the question isn’t if emotions will be present, it’s if we are prepared to skillfully navigate them and support ourselves and others in learning from the wisdom emotions provide. As with all things Transformational Coaching, you must start with yourself before you can support others. This is why participants engage […]
Have you ever been hesitant to coach emotions because you don’t want to overstep your role as a coach or leader? If so, I’m glad you’re thinking critically about the boundaries of your role, and I’m here to tell you that you can coach emotions in an appropriate and responsible way. You just need to […]
As this school year starts, perhaps you are thinking about how to lead a team differently than you have before. Perhaps in a way that is more energizing, with distributed leadership, with more joy and focus and commitment from everyone. Maybe you are forming a vision from your hopes and the needs of the community […]
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Last week on the podcast, I shared my top considerations for a thriving coaching program. These included the three things that need to happen in every Transformational Coaching conversation: Trust must be built, deepened or repaired Beliefs must be explored Clients must be solving their own problems Today, I’m sharing a set of reflection prompts […]
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If you’re a manager looking to coach, you need to adjust your expectations. Managers cannot be coaches. Coaching is a vehicle for learning. When we are learning things can get messy. Ideally, when working with a coach, we can completely let our guards down, we can be vulnerable and say every messy thing on our […]
How often do you ask for what you want? How do you ask? Whom do you ask? Refining your asking skills can contribute to your resilience. As summer comes to a close and you start thinking about the next school year, consider what it might look like for you to ask for what you want […]
If you lead a team, you most likely have facilitated decision-making processes. And I’m willing to guess they haven’t always gone as smoothly as you hoped. Perhaps you’ve tried to build consensus only to find you haven’t gotten anywhere. Or perhaps you’ve made a decision on behalf of your team only to find that people were upset they weren’t involved.
Decision-making can be hard work, especially when levels of urgency are high.
These 10 indicators of good decision-making processes can make it easier. […]
In this episode we hear how Keiko Elizabeth, a former teacher, pursued a calling to be an actress. She also describes returning to the site of the Japanese internment camp where her father was born, how her passion for acting began, and a daily empathy practice that helps her access courage. […]
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In this episode, I coach Nick Cains, an educator in Tulsa. We explore strong emotions including anger and betrayal, drawing boundaries, and asking for affirmation. And I reflect on coaching across lines of racial difference and holding space to process… […]
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