5 Steps to Fewer Resentments

"Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.”

— Neil Strauss

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Some quotes hit like a ton of bricks. 

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Every single time I’ve found myself in a they’re being completely unreasonable! situation, I realize I already know how I got there: an expectation wasn’t clear and shared.

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😡How we use meeting time 

😡How resources are allocated 

😡How performance reviews are conducted 

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…as a team leader, I know the list of areas for potential pitfalls goes on and on. 

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Five steps to a happier team: 

1. ❌Identify one current point of contention or grumpiness 
2. 🤔Clearly articulate your expectations and the thinking that informed them for yourself
3. 💬Share a synthesized version with your team  
4. ❓Provide a way for them to ask clarifying questions 
5. 🗓️Communicate your commitment to being more proactive and transparent, sharing your expectations moving forward
   Hint: This likely includes dedicating ongoing time and space to get clear on them for yourself!

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Try it out this week, and let me know how it goes! 

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Not a team leader? Not a problem. If you’re in relationship with others the same principles apply:

🧑‍🎓Where are their opportunities to be more explicit with your students? 

👥What unspoken questions do you sense your clients might have? 

🫂Where has there been frustration or resistance at home?  

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