Say, "Goodbye," to Resistance
November 18, 2024
Here’s the most important thing to remember when you encounter resistance: it can only exist when there are two forces.
That’s great news! It means as soon as you decide to stop pushing, the person resisting has nothing to push back against.
A skillful coach or facilitator knows that when they encounter resistance, they need to slow down and provide space to process emotions (usually fear). With nothing left to push against, all of our collective energy can go towards finding a path forward.
I know, this is harder said than done. And even harder when you’re the one standing in front of the group.
If you want to feel calm and collected the next time you face resistance in a meeting or PD, I’ve got you covered:
- Subscribe to my Weekly Wisdom Newsletter to get tips and insights sent to your inbox weekly
- Download my How to Eliminate Resistance free tool
- Read Chapter 3 of The PD Book: Navigate Power
- Listen to this episode of The Bright Morning Podcast
- Join The PD Workshop for a comprehensive learning experience and practice space
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Soliciting Feedback from Your Admin: Coaching Demonstration
Coaching an Emotions-Resistant Client: Coaching Demonstration
Navigating Client Cancelations: Coaching Demonstration
Using the Gaps Framework: Coaching Demonstration
How to Open and Close a Coaching Conversation: Episode 219
Navigating First Observation Nerves: Episode 218
The Getting-to-Know-You Conversation: Episode 217
Aligning Expectations Between Coach and Admin: Episode 216
Designing Impactful Coaching Goals
Crafting Your Personal Vision for the School Year
Six Things Coaches Need to Know Before School Starts
Determining Your Schedule for the School Year
How to Introduce Yourself to Clients
How to Coach Behaviors: Coaching Conversations
Coaching Behaviors: Teacher-to-Student Interaction Tool
How to Coach Behaviors: The Gaps Framework
Coaching Behaviors: Planning for the Conversation
How to Coach Behaviors
How to Coach Beliefs: Coaching Demonstration
How to Coach Beliefs: Create New Beliefs
Coaching Beliefs: A Simple Three-Step Tool
How to Coach Beliefs: The Drama Triangle
How to Coach Beliefs: Five Things You Need to Know
Coaching Conversation: Coaching Core Human Needs
How to Coach Towards Agency
How to Curb Your “Fix It” Tendency
Core Human Needs and Coaching Conversations
How to Coach Ways of Being
Building Strong Coach/Admin Relationships
Sneak Peek #1: Inside Elena’s Newest Book!
Sneak Peek #2: Inside Elena’s Newest Book!
Sneak Peek #3: Inside Elena’s Newest Book!
Sneak Peek #4: Inside Elena's Newest Book!
What to Do When You’re Not Feeling Compassionate or Curious
What You Need to Know about Classroom Walkthroughs
How to Set Up Meeting Process Observers
Coaches of Color, It’s Time to Honor Your Needs
How to Use the Ladder of Inference in Your Coaching Conversations
I Don’t Want to Co-Sign THOSE Feelings.
Try It On: Supercharge Your Learning
Try It On: Let Your Coachee Lead
Try It On: The Power of Silence
Try It On: A Question to Unlock Our Power
Try It On: A Question to Surface Underlying Beliefs
Try It On: A Confidence Building Sentence Stem
Try It On: Less Talking, More Impact
Try It On: Learn from Your Coachee’s Non-Verbals
Try It On: Improve Your Communication with Non-Verbals
What You Need to Know About Taking Notes During Your Coaching Conversations
How to Prepare for a Coaching Conversation in Five Minutes
How to Set Goals with Your Coachees
How to Introduce Yourself as a Coach
How to Introduce Coaching to New Clients
The Six Elements of Transformational Coaching
The Six Most Important Things to Know If You're a New Coach
Proactively Mitigating and Responding to Harm in Group Spaces
Facilitating PD: Post-Event Reflection
Designing PD: Reflection Before the Event
Designing & Facilitating Team Meetings - Part 2
Designing & Facilitating Team Meetings: Part 1
Navigating Contagious Negativity
Can I Coach Here?
When Someone Is “Too Far Gone” for Coaching
When “Equity” is Prohibited
Coaching Conversation: Finding Your Power
Coaching Conversation: ACE In Action
Three Resilience Boosters You Haven’t Heard Before
The Role of “Self-Care” for Educators
Five Ways to Normalize Emotions in Your Coaching Conversations
What do we mean by “every conversation is an equity conversation?”
Coaching When You’re the Boss
Responding When Emotionally Activated
How to Build Your Team’s EQ
How to Close Your Coaching Conversations
How to Determine Your Coaching Conversation Area of Focus
Transformational PD Part 3: Responding to Resistance
Transformational PD Part 2: Six Transformational Tips
Transformational PD Part 1: What It Is and Why You Need It
Coaching Resistance: Part 3 - Coaching Demonstration
Coaching Resistance: Part 2 - Preparing OURSELVES
Coaching Resistance Part 1: What is Resistance?
How to Set Yourself Up For a Great Year
In Conversation with Dr. Dena Simmons
Disrupting Racism at the Dinner Table…And Beyond
Disrupting Racism in Coaching Conversations
Why We Need Affinity Spaces
Microaggressions 101
Coaching Conversation: The Final Conversation
Coaching Conversation: Phase 4: Build New Practices
Coaching Conversation- What Happens when You Trust the Process
Coaching Conversation: Building Relationships and Trust in Phases 1 and 2 of Transformational Coaching
Transformational Coaching in Action - Phase 1: Surface Current Reality
Limited Series: Starting the School Year Strong - Setting Yourself Up to Coach
Limited Series: Starting the School Year Strong Considerations for a Thriving Coaching Program
Limited Series: Starting the School Year Strong The PD You Need
Starting Strong: The Power of Vision
Do What You Can: In Conversation with Sharon McMahon of @SharonSaysSo
What to Read This Summer with Dr. Kimberly Parker
Coaching Joy
Coaching Sadness
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